What I Wish I Knew Before My First Birth Experience

As a birth doula and educator, I’ve had the honor of supporting many parents through the powerful journey of birth. Even though I haven’t experienced childbirth myself yet, my work has given me deep insights into what first-time parents face and what can make the biggest difference in their experience.

If I could go back and share a few pieces of advice with those preparing for birth, here’s what I would say:

1. The Power of Preparation: It might sound simple, but the more you know about the birth process, the more empowered and confident you’ll feel when the time comes. Understanding what to expect at each stage and learning different coping strategies can make all the difference. Feeling informed reduces fear, and fear can amplify pain. The more prepared you are, the more in control you’ll feel.

2. Birth Is Fluid: No matter how much you plan, birth is unpredictable. Every birth is different, and your preferences may shift in the moment. One of the most important things I’ve seen is the need for flexibility. If things don’t go according to plan, it’s okay. The key is to remain open and trust yourself.

3. Your Voice Matters: Every parent should feel empowered to speak up and advocate for their needs during birth. Whether it’s communicating your preferences, asking questions, or asking for a break, it’s essential that you feel heard and respected. Birth is a deeply personal experience, and knowing how to use your voice helps create a birth that aligns with your values.

4. Support Makes a World of Difference Having a strong support system is crucial. Whether it’s a partner, doula, or trusted friend, having someone by your side who understands your needs and advocates for you can make the experience smoother and less stressful.

5. The Power of Trusting Your Body Labor can be challenging, but your body is incredibly capable. Trusting your body and staying connected to your instincts can help you navigate the process with confidence. The mind-body connection is powerful, and the more you trust in your body’s wisdom, the more empowered you will feel.

As a doula, I am honored to share this knowledge with expecting parents and help them feel prepared, supported, and confident. Even though I haven’t experienced birth firsthand yet, my goal is to help you feel as ready as possible for your journey ahead.

If you’re preparing for birth, remember: You are stronger than you realize, and with the right tools and support, you can navigate the experience with confidence.